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Category: Therapist’s Insight

What Is In a Name: a Step-family Dilemma

Recently an attorney mentioned to me that he was going to court to ask a judge, among other custody matters, for a client to forbid his 10 year old daughter from calling his wife, her step-mom,” mom”. Aside from the feasibility of enforcing such a ruling, it got me thinking about what we call each […]

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The Myth of The Blended Family

I have always disliked the term step-family. As both a step-daughter and step-mother, it conveyed to me “less than” or even worse brought forth negative images of evil step-mothers in fairy tales. Perhaps because of this, the term “blended family” was developed several decades ago. And while more positive, I think it unwittingly created problems […]

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Borderline Personalities and Divorce

Anecdotal evidence suggests that individuals with personality disorders, particularly borderline personality disorder, have both higher rates of divorce and more difficulty negotiating this difficult life transition. A legal colleague asked me to examine why this may be true and how best to help people with this diagnosis when their marriage ends. The DSM V provides […]

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Can I Divorce A Spouse Who Has Mental Illness?

The quick answer is, of course, you can legally end a marriage when a spouse is mentally ill. But the real question is may I end this marriage—i.e. can I give myself permission, ethically, morally to do so. This question raises several issues. The most important one may be the definition of mental illness. It […]

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Co-Parenting: The Good, The Bad & The Ugly

When parents divorce, they are usually awarded joint custody of minor children. Of course, this makes sense and seems on face value to be an attractive option—they each get to spend time with their children and be a significant part of their lives. However, the “devil is in the details” and there are many obstacles […]

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The New Normal – When Parents Divorce

One of the most difficult, heart wrenching aspects of parents divorcing is the fact that in most cases, each of you will have nights when you don’t put your kids to bed and mornings when you wake up without them. None of us anticipates this in those early bonding months when most people fall in […]

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When An Ex Remarries: How Do I “Protect” My Kids

Divorce is usually painful enough, but when an ex remarries additional negative feelings can arise. It may become more difficult to accept the idea that our former partner was damaged in some way and unable to have a relationship. If infidelity was involved and that relationship has continued, more intense anger may occur. The thought […]

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