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Considering Divorce? Maybe You Should Get a Toilet First

“Irreconcilable differences” may conjure memories of the 1984 movie starring a young Drew Barrymore for baby boomers and generation Xers, but today’s generation may equate the term to a toilet.

You read that right. Toilet maker Kohler is getting rave reviews in advertising circles for a commercial titled “Irreconcilable Differences,” which depicts a separating couple duking it out over property division. They manage to patch up things over Kohler’s new luxury toilet.

The Veil Intelligent Toilet proves irresistible to the millionaire couple. If only reconciliation was that simple, huh?

While humorous, this commercial brings to light a common term that many people can’t easily define. “Irreconcilable differences” is the term used to describe the general breakdown of a marriage. It means you and your husband or wife are unable to come to agreement on basic, fundamental issues that involve your marriage or your family, and you’ve determined that you never will agree.

These differences could be about any of a number of things, but here are some examples:

  • How you raise your children
  • The religion you wish to raise your children in
  • Work/life balance
  • Sexual intimacy
  • Political views

California is a no-fault state, which means either spouse can seek a divorce without having to prove wrongdoing. In this state, there are just two grounds for divorce or legal separation: irreconcilable differences and incurable insanity.

Even though you feel you can’t agree on key points in your marriage, a couple that cites irreconcilable differences as grounds for divorce must agree on a few things

  • That the differences are so vast, your marriage can’t be saved
  • You must agree to some form of property division
  • If you have children, a parenting plan must be agreed upon that outlines child support, visitation and custody

“If you think property division could get nasty, perhaps you might try purchasing this luxury toilet as a last resort,” Encinitas divorce lawyer John Griffith says with tongue firmly planted in cheek. “At about $1,000, the Veil could be cheaper than a contested divorce.
All jokes aside, divorce or separation is no laughing matter. If you feel that your marriage is beyond repair, we invite you to call our office for a complimentary consultation. We can walk you through the steps of separation and divorce, and will show you ways in which you can keep costs down as you navigate your way to single status.






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Family Attorney John N. Griffith, CFLS
Family Attorney John N. Griffith, CFLS

Family Attorney, John N. Griffith, CFLS

John Griffith has practiced exclusively in the area of family law since 2009. John is a Certified Family Law Specialist certified as an expert in the area of family law by the California Board of Legal Specialization.


Family Attorney, Catie E. Young, ESQ.
Family Attorney, Catie E. Young, ESQ.

Family Attorney, Catie E. Young, ESQ.

San Diego family lawyer Catie Young has a wide range of litigation experience. She has worked in civil litigation. She has successfully represented clients in many areas of family law including child support, child custody, divorce and domestic violence. She has a unique approach to each child custody case, so clients of Griffith, Young & Lass tend to gravitate toward her in these cases.


Family Attorney Amy J. Lass, Esq.
Family Attorney Amy J. Lass, Esq.

Family Attorney, Amy J. Lass, Esq.

Amy Lass was born in New York and raised in San Diego, California. Amy graduated from Cal Poly, San Luis Obispo in 2003 with a B.S. in Economics with a concentration in Enterprise Accounting and went on to earn her law degree from Thomas Jefferson School of Law and graduated cum laude in 2006. Amy takes a practical and cost considerate approach to the process while striving to balance the emotional needs and objectives of her clients.


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The Typical Divorce Process in California
Discovery of Assets & Obligations (1-3 months)
1 Complaint for Divorce Filed Start of litigation
2 Complaint is Served Varies, but usually shortly after the complaint is filed
3 Answer to Complaint Due 30 days from the date of service
4 Mediation Anytime, but usually after initial discovery
5 Temporary Hearing Usually early in the process
6 Late Case Evaluation / Judicial Hosted Settlement Conference Usually near the end of the case
7 Trial (If Needed) The goal is to settle, but if your case goes to trial, it could take months after the start of litigation.
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