Fighting Over Household Duties Leads to Divorce
Carlsbad, CA – Conflicts over chores are among the primary reasons that couples divorce, according to a Harvard Business School working paper published in January.
One nationally representative survey of newly divorced individuals in the United States found that 25 percent of respondents cited disagreements about housework as the biggest reason for their divorce, according to Business Insider. The top reason was infidelity, which was cited as the reason for divorce for 40 percent of those who participated in the survey, followed by drifting apart, cited by 35 percent.
The scholars at the Harvard Business School and the University of British Columbia who oversaw the study looked at whether outsourcing chores could improve relationships. The study, which included more than 3,000 people in committed relationships across a range of tests, found that “those who spent more money on timesaving services were more satisfied with their relationships, in part because they spent more quality time with their partners,” according to The New York Times.
Sounds simple enough, right? It is, provided you have the expendable income to hire a housekeeper or order takeout instead of cooking your own meals. If you can’t afford to outsource the tasks that cause the squabbling, there’s another option: agree that some chores won’t get done in a timely fashion.
You might consider determining what doesn’t get done by inviting MEL into your life. That is author Tiffany Dufu’s name for the Management Excel List she and her husband devised to get a handle on their household responsibilities. Thanks to MEL, the Dufus were able to come to grips with not washing the car for a couple of months, or grabbing clean socks from the laundry basket instead of the dresser drawer.
It’s good to keep in mind that in some cases, it may not be the dusty shelves or the sandy floor that’s getting under your skin. Many married couples are guilty of dancing around the root problem, according to a Beliefnet article. Spouses aren’t mind readers, so be forthright in what’s bugging you. Work to resolve that issue, and you might increase your satisfaction level in your relationship.
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