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The Mediation Process

In-House Mediation Services from Our Carlsbad Divorce Mediation Lawyers

At Griffith, Young & Lass, our goal is to provide our clients with the legal tools they need to resolve their family matters peacefully—and mediation is often a great way to do so for those whose situations allow for it.

Whether you are trying to establish a child custody arrangement, divide assets and property, or you simply want to divorce without having to step into a courtroom, the mediation process may be for you.

Below, we address common questions we get about the mediation process. We encourage you to read through our answers to better familiarize yourself with the process and what to expect from it. Then, when you’re ready, give us a call at (858) 371-5569 to schedule a consultation about your own mediation.

What Is Divorce Mediation?

Divorce mediation is a process that allows you to divorce your spouse with the help of a specially trained and completely neutral third party. During the mediation sessions, you will be able to discuss and resolve common divorce-related issues.

Many couples prefer divorce mediation because the process is typically less stressful and less costly than your average divorce trial. The process is also typically faster, which suits most divorcing couples.

How Do You Choose the Right Mediator?

To experience the best outcome, you should look for a mediator who is trained to handle the various issues that can quickly complicate a divorce proceeding, such as child custody, visitation, and support.

Your mediator should be trained to resolve conflicts and possess extensive knowledge of your state’s divorce laws. Your mediator should also be willing to work with you to help you and your spouse facilitate a meaningful conversation about all pertinent issues.

Above all, look for a mediator you and your spouse can both work with. The process of searching for a mediator should be done together to ensure you are both comfortable with the person who will be moderating the negotiations in your divorce. You can hire a divorce mediation attorney to represent your specific interests in these matters.

How Does the Mediation Process Work?

The mediator you choose to guide your divorce is responsible for helping both parties prepare. Adequate preparation involves the necessary paperwork and education about the process. Here is what you can expect in the mediation setting.

How a Mediator Guides the Divorce Proceedings

  • The first goal of your mediator is to resolve matters without lengthy court proceedings. For this to happen, your divorce mediator must dig down into the details of your case. By doing so, he or she can present possible solutions that can bring both you and your spouse into the agreement.
  • With vast experience and training, a family law mediator is able to weigh the benefits and risks that pertain to situations like child custody, child support, and alimony. Once all options are on the table, you and your spouse will be able to discuss the merits of each and what’s in the best interest of all parties, including any children the two of you may share.

What Can You Expect During Your Mediation Session?

On the day of the meeting, your family law mediator will invite you and your spouse to engage in a joint session. Unlike court, where parties typically communicate through their lawyers, during mediation you are free to talk with your spouse about the issues on the table. In fact, meditation is designed to be a venue for open communication. So, feel free to state your unique position in a free and open atmosphere, and be ready to listen in kind to your spouse’s concerns as you move toward a satisfactory compromise.

Is Privacy Guaranteed During the Mediation Setting?

Privacy is one of the biggest perks of divorce mediation. When you sit down with your spouse and the mediator, you can be sure that all documents and matters of interest will be kept confidential. This includes all documents and information used during the mediation process that are not included in the public record.

How to Get a Peaceful Resolution to Your Divorce

The divorce mediation process exists to save you time, money, and loads of frustration as you move toward a peaceful divorce with your spouse. As long as you are prepared, maintain patience, and remain willing to find a middle ground to settle your divorce quickly, mediation can work for you.

Interested in mediation? Talk to our Carlsbad mediation attorneys at GYL to learn more. We can be reached at (858) 371-5569 or via our online contact form.

Meet Our Team 

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  • John N. Griffith, Esq., CFLS
  • Catie E. Young, Esq., CFLS
  • Amy J. Lass, Esq., CFLS
  • Shirin Asgari, Esq.
  • Eric Cowdery, Esq.
  • Jeffrey Wittliff, Esq.
  • Joshua Yee, Esq.
  • Shaudi Malekzadeh, Esq.
  • John N. Griffith, Esq., CFLS John N. Griffith, Esq., CFLS


    John Griffith has practiced exclusively in the area of family law since 2009. John is a Certified Family Law Specialist certified as an expert in the area of family law by the California Board of Legal Specialization. Prior to opening Griffith, Young & Lass, he worked as the managing partner of one of the largest family law firms in North County San Diego.
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  • Catie E. Young, Esq., CFLS Catie E. Young, Esq., CFLS


    Catie E. Young excels in child custody cases and move-away trials. She has a unique approach to child custody cases and clients of Griffith, Young & Lass tend to gravitate toward her in these cases. Since joining the firm, she has continuously brought her zeal and compassion to representing clients in child custody and domestic violence cases, and in December 2011, she became a partner at Griffith, Young & Lass.
    Catie E. Young, Esq., CFLS Photo
  • Amy J. Lass, Esq., CFLS Amy J. Lass, Esq., CFLS


    Amy Lass, a certified family law specialist, was born in New York and raised in San Diego, California. Amy graduated from Cal Poly, San Luis Obispo in 2003 with a B.S. in Economics with a concentration in Enterprise Accounting. Amy went on to earn her law degree from Thomas Jefferson School of Law and graduated cum laude in 2006.
    Amy J. Lass, Esq., CFLS Photo
  • Shirin Asgari, Esq. Shirin Asgari, Esq.


    Attorney Shirin Asgari has a broad spectrum of legal experience and has handled matters in family law, criminal law, business law, and national security law. Currently, she focuses on family law matters and is a strong advocate for the rights of her clients. She dedicates time and attention to the needs of each client and the unique circumstances their case presents.
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  • Eric Cowdery, Esq. Eric Cowdery, Esq.


    Eric Cowdery earned his bachelor’s and Master’s degrees before earning his JD from Golden Gate University as part of the Honors Lawyering Program. He was admitted to the California Bar Association in 2013 and has been working diligently in the field ever since. Taking a personalized approach to each case, Eric Cowdery is committed to working with clients to help them through the often confusing and complex legal process of divorce.

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  • Jeffrey Wittliff, Esq. Jeffrey Wittliff, Esq.


    Jeffrey Wittliff is extremely attentive to his cases and believes in thorough preparation and the value of regular client communication. Behind the scenes, he has an extensive background in research related to all areas of family law, propounding discovery when necessary, and negotiation to settle cases with opposing parties.
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  • Joshua Yee, Esq. Joshua Yee, Esq.


    Attorney Joshua Yeereceived his Bachelor of Arts degree in Political Science, from the University of California, San Diego. Joshua went on to receive his Juris Doctor degree from University of San Francisco. His experience working with a local Certified Family Law Specialist solidified his desire to become a family law attorney. Since becoming an attorney, Josh has exclusively practiced in family law.
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  • Shaudi Malekzadeh, Esq. Shaudi Malekzadeh, Esq.


    Shaudi Malekzadeh is a Carlsbad family law attorney at Griffith, Young & Lass, advocating for the rights and interests of Southern California families in a variety of family law cases, such as child custody, alimony, spousal support, and the division of community property. She is committed to delivering effective legal representation to our clients, aggressively advocating for their legal rights, and offering compassionate legal advice.
    Shaudi  Malekzadeh, Esq. Photo

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Why GYL? 

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    From case planning to preparation, to superior courtroom presence, our clients can be sure that they will walk into the Courtroom prepared and with the best chance of success.

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    Our representation is tailored to the unique circumstances of each client. We deploy the GYL strategic case trajectory dynamic to ensure the best chance at success at the most reasonable cost. 

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    We don't believe in wasting our client's time and money. Helping people is what drives us to excel at our craft. We first identify the goals and interests of each client, we then develop an efficient and effective case plan aimed at achieving those goals.

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    We believe in a responsible and ethical practice and stick to our values regardless of the situation. We're transparent and don't just tell our clients what they want to hear, unless it's what we believe, even if it may deter them from moving forward. We stand by our team's expertise and will always be upfront and honest with our clients. 

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