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The Seven-Year Itch- It’s Really A Thing

shutterstock_176131340Old wive’s tale or truth?

In 1955, Tom Ewell portrayed a faithful family man married for seven years who was tempted by a beautiful, blond and blatantly single Marilyn Monroe in The Seven Year Itch.  While the “seven-year itch” is a sort of old wive’s tale that describes a supposed tendency to become unfaithful after seven years of marriage, it turns out there may be some truth to it.

How long were your parent’s married?

The good news is that if your parents have remained married, your chances of staying married increase. Seventy-three percent of people who made it to the 10-year mark in their marriages had parents who were still married, compared to 57 percent of people who grew up in single parent homes or in homes without a parent.

Here’s how you make it last:

Since the seven-year itch really is “a thing,” let’s discuss ways in which you can prevent it from happening to your marriage.

Ephesians 5:31 states, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” But that doesn’t mean you can’t maintain your own identity. Of course you need to romance each other, but don’t forget to take time for yourself, too. Maintain some of your own friendships, hobbies and pastimes, and take steps to ensure your spouse does, too.

Talk show host Dr. Phil has a question he likes to ask guests occasionally: Do you want to be right, or happy? Having a marriage that stands the trials of the seven-year marriage mark means you will have to ask yourselves this question once in a while. Conflict occurs in every relationship. Decide now to always choose happiness over being right. Try letting go of the need to always have the last word, the right answer, or to prove your spouse wrong, and not only will you both be happier, your marriage may stand the test of time.

We hope you find these tips useful. We understand, however, that not every marriage that begins as a fairytale will have a happy ending. If your marriage has run its course and you need expert advice regarding your next steps, please call and speak to one of our Encinitas divorce attorneys. We offer free consultations, as well as discounts for military personnel.

 

 

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