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Top 5 Mistakes Clients Make

1. Refusing to compromise.

Divorce cases rarely, if ever, settle with either party being happy with the end result or “winning” the case.  In order for a divorce case to have any chance at settlement both parties must compromise.  Often what may be of primary interest to one party may not be as important to the other.  The key to settlement is separating what you want from what you are willing to live with considering each issue.

2.Sharing details of the divorce with children.

The worst thing that you can do to your children during a divorce is to get them involved in the dispute.  The number one goal of parents going through a divorce should always be to ensure that they are sheltering the children from the negative aspects of the divorce and helping them in any way they need to work through this very difficult transition in their lives.

3. Allowing emotions to dictate decision making.

Making decisions regarding your divorce based on your feelings toward your spouse is a mistake that is difficult to avoid.  Feelings are natural and healthy—you have no control over them.  You do have control over how you choose to deal with those feelings.  The decisions that you make will influence the complexity and cost of your divorce case.  Our best advice is to follow the advice of your divorce lawyer.  Your divorce lawyer is emotionally detached from your relationship with your spouse and can see the issues from an unbiased perspective.  Listen to your lawyer and try your best to put emotions aside.

4.Having unrealistic expectations.

Having realistic expectations regarding the potential outcome of issues related to your divorce is essential to making the process bearable.  This starts with your divorce lawyer giving you a proper assessment of your case.  Unrealistic expectations lead to both an inability to settle the case and disappointment that the expected result is not achieved.

5.Violating court orders.

Court orders are made to be followed and California family court judges do not take kindly to orders being violated.  Whether you agree with an order or not you must follow the order unless and until it is changed by the court.  If you have an issue complying with an order for child support or child custody then let your attorney know the issue so that corrective action can be taken.

Meet Your Dedicated San Diego Family Attorneys
Family Attorney John N. Griffith, CFLS
Family Attorney John N. Griffith, CFLS

Family Attorney, John N. Griffith, CFLS

John Griffith has practiced exclusively in the area of family law since 2009. John is a Certified Family Law Specialist certified as an expert in the area of family law by the California Board of Legal Specialization.

858-345-1720
john@gylfamilylaw.com

Family Attorney, Catie E. Young, ESQ.
Family Attorney, Catie E. Young, ESQ.

Family Attorney, Catie E. Young, ESQ.

San Diego family lawyer Catie Young has a wide range of litigation experience. She has worked in civil litigation. She has successfully represented clients in many areas of family law including child support, child custody, divorce and domestic violence. She has a unique approach to each child custody case, so clients of Griffith, Young & Lass tend to gravitate toward her in these cases.

858-345-1720
catie@gylfamilylaw.com

Family Attorney Amy J. Lass, Esq.
Family Attorney Amy J. Lass, Esq.

Family Attorney, Amy J. Lass, Esq.

Amy Lass was born in New York and raised in San Diego, California. Amy graduated from Cal Poly, San Luis Obispo in 2003 with a B.S. in Economics with a concentration in Enterprise Accounting and went on to earn her law degree from Thomas Jefferson School of Law and graduated cum laude in 2006. Amy takes a practical and cost considerate approach to the process while striving to balance the emotional needs and objectives of her clients.

858-345-1720
amy@gylfamilylaw.com

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The Typical Divorce Process in California
Discovery of Assets & Obligations (1-3 months)
1 Complaint for Divorce Filed Start of litigation
2 Complaint is Served Varies, but usually shortly after the complaint is filed
3 Answer to Complaint Due 30 days from the date of service
4 Mediation Anytime, but usually after initial discovery
5 Temporary Hearing Usually early in the process
6 Late Case Evaluation / Judicial Hosted Settlement Conference Usually near the end of the case
7 Trial (If Needed) The goal is to settle, but if your case goes to trial, it could take months after the start of litigation.
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I am beyond grateful for the entire staff at Griffith, Young, and Lass. I don't even call myself a client anymore, they are my friends that protected my family and fought with me, side by side.-Erik H., San Diego