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What to Consider When Preparing for Your First Mediation Session

Carlsbad, CA – If you’re going through a divorce, custody battle or other legal dispute, you may already know how time-consuming and expensive the process can be. However, mediation offers a fairly peaceful, affordable alternative to what could be chaos otherwise.

What Is Mediation?

First MediationMediation programs allow people to avoid the courtroom by resolving complaints themselves. Those involved in a dispute work with a mediator to find their own solutions to their case, instead of being told what to do by a judge. Mediators can be trained volunteers who are not lawyers, or they can be paid professionals like John Griffith, a San-Diego area family law attorney, and mediator.

In a divorce case, you and your spouse can each air your grievances, with equal opportunity allotted to both of you. The mediator will summarize each side and offer possible solutions. The goal of mediation is to smoothly and quickly resolve the matter without having to go to trial. Mediation is a time to identify common goals, eliminate misunderstandings, identify priorities, and eventually compromise to reach an agreement.

If a trial is necessary, the mediator’s report will likely factor into the judge’s decision, so try to be personable and professional in your mediation.

How to Prepare for Your First Mediation

While getting ready for your mediation, the following steps may be helpful:

  1. Clarify your goals. What do you hope to accomplish? What are you willing to compromise on, and what is absolutely non-negotiable?
  2. Be ready to explain your situation clearly and quickly. As you and your spouse will be given equal time to talk about your case, make sure you know the most important points. Time is of the essence, so be prepared to distill your side down to key facts.
  3. Have some notes ready. You are allowed to take your own notes to the mediation, so be prepared by filling out a mediation worksheet beforehand.
  4. Make sure you can treat your spouse civilly. Even if there is bitterness or justifiable anger at your spouse, losing your temper will only prolong the outcome of your case. Mentally prepare yourself ahead of time to listen to your spouse’s side of the story, as this will lead to a faster resolution.
  5. If you have children, think about what’s really best for them. If you’re going for mediation over custody issues, be sure not to mix that with child support payments. Think about how your children will prosper, and what environment best meets their needs.

To best prepare for your mediation, schedule a free consultation with Griffith, Young, and Lass today. This team has skilled, experienced family law attorneys who can help you with mediation, drastically reducing the stresses and costs associated with this difficult time.

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Family Attorney John N. Griffith, CFLS
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Family Attorney, John N. Griffith, CFLS

John Griffith has practiced exclusively in the area of family law since 2009. John is a Certified Family Law Specialist certified as an expert in the area of family law by the California Board of Legal Specialization.


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Family Attorney, Catie E. Young, ESQ.

Family Attorney, Catie E. Young, ESQ.

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Amy Lass was born in New York and raised in San Diego, California. Amy graduated from Cal Poly, San Luis Obispo in 2003 with a B.S. in Economics with a concentration in Enterprise Accounting and went on to earn her law degree from Thomas Jefferson School of Law and graduated cum laude in 2006. Amy takes a practical and cost considerate approach to the process while striving to balance the emotional needs and objectives of her clients.


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The Typical Divorce Process in California
Discovery of Assets & Obligations (1-3 months)
1 Complaint for Divorce Filed Start of litigation
2 Complaint is Served Varies, but usually shortly after the complaint is filed
3 Answer to Complaint Due 30 days from the date of service
4 Mediation Anytime, but usually after initial discovery
5 Temporary Hearing Usually early in the process
6 Late Case Evaluation / Judicial Hosted Settlement Conference Usually near the end of the case
7 Trial (If Needed) The goal is to settle, but if your case goes to trial, it could take months after the start of litigation.
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